When I was young I wasted my time playing video games for hours. I could play all day and night. I love challenging games. I like games that have different levels and quests to accomplish. One of the reasons I played all day is because I would not stop until I defeated the game. No matter how many times I got defeated in the game I would try it again and again until I won. Video games did not add value to my life in any way, but I discovered that I have a useful trait.
In Mexico I was a public transportation driver. I started at 17 years old. I learned how to drive when I was 16. I am coming from a very poor family. My family and I barely could bring food to the table. We had no money for a bicycle let alone a car.
I started to hang out with people who work driving public transportation vans. When they were not on the road, I would beg them to teach me how to drive every time. They would always say no, and they called me annoying or stubborn, often in a mean way. When they did this, I felt rejected and mistreated. However, something inside me told me not to stop. Finally one day, some of them gave up and let me try. That was the beginning of my driving experience, and this is how I learned to drive.
The reason I could play video games for so many hours and enjoy it was because there was a challenge involved, and I have a virtue that I used when playing video games: persistence. I would not stop no matter how many times the game defeated me. This is also why I learned how to drive at an early age when the possibility to learn was minimal.
Life continued, and I noticed that many people don’t like my persistence because it is annoying. I let my persistence go for a while, and during that time I did not achieve anything meaningful in my life. At 28 years old I got into learning again, and I started to study. I found out that my persistence is what got me what I wanted. Therefore, I continue being persistent even if other people don’t like it. However, this time I needed to be smart by applying my persistence toward meaningful acts. This is how many people became successful in their lives.
I read about Silvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Thomas Edison and others who are part of our history, especially Mother Teresa. I read her story, saw her documentary and found out how persistent she was about getting people to support her cause.
For me, being “annoying” or “stubborn” is a virtue. Persistence shows that you really want what you are being persistent about. Persistence means that you won’t stop until you achieve your goal. Persistence is the mother of all disciplines. It doesn’t matter how much knowledge one has if there is persistence to succeed. Persistence is only for serious people who are willing to be rejected, get many “no’s” and fail many times.
I have been persistent in my career, and I am proud of it. It has helped me achieve many of my goals. Also, I think about the mistakes I made by not being persistent. “If only I had tried one more time,” “if only I would have had one more chance,” “If only I would have stayed longer,” “If only I could try it again.”
The other day, I was hiking and saw an ant pulling an insect bigger than itself. I stopped and contemplated him. The ant had many obstacles to overcome to take the insect to his refuge. The ant philosophy is very simple. They don’t stop no matter the obstacles. They get to their destination with their reward. If there is something blocking their path, they go up, left, right under and wherever it takes to get past it. What a great philosophy to learn from.
Persistence is one virtue I can tell has helped me get so far in my life. I have applied it everywhere in my life where I want to achieve anything, and it works.
Don’t be afraid of being rejected. If you really want to achieve your goal or dream, don’t stop until you get it. You will regret for not trying, but you will not regret for being persistent.
I have being paying close attention to how our body and our life transforms about every 7 years. For example, our cells are replaced every 7 years, our bones are replaced every 7 years and we are programmed for life in our first 7 years. I remember reading in a book by Carlos Cuauhtémoc Sanchez where he mentions that if we go back and check our pictures from seven years ago we will have changed our way of dressing, our facial futures, our hair style and other features.
What really caught my attention was a video of Bruce Lipton explaining how what we experience in our first 7 years influences how we are going to behave for our rest of our life (unless we do something about it). He further explains that our genes do not have any control over our future.
For example, if in his first 7 years of life a child has been taught to live in fear and he has been overprotected, he will behave like that for the rest of his life. If the child was abused or was taught violence for those 7 years, the child will become a violent adult. This will become his blueprint for life.
This is why it is so difficult to help people change their ways when they’re adults. They’re already programmed to be the way they are. This is the subconscious program that kicks in every time. Many people blame their behavior on their genes, but really it was the behavior that they were taught starting at birth, and because our parents are the ones with such behavior, we think it’s genetic.
It is like a machine that is controlled by a program. It will do only what the software or the program is commanding. To help the machine behave differently, a different program needs to be downloaded.
People who want to change their life do have an option to be happy instead of negative or to be in shape instead of overweight. People who don’t have a successful relationship can have one. People who are alcoholic can become sober. This is a matter of choice, and I will disclose what I have discovered in a moment.
Let’s go back to the 7 year period. Like I said in the beginning, every 7 years we are a completely different person depending on our environment, food, beliefs, acts and other things.
For example, let’s say that all you eat is junk food the first 7 years. By the time you’re 7 you have already developed a disease, or you are overweight. Or let’s say that your parents are negative and that is what you learned in your first 7 years. By age 7 you are already negative about your life.
To begin with, junk food is tasty and addicting (or if all you know is being negative) and you believe that is who you are and you don’t see your behavior, it will be very difficult to change the way you are eating (or your thought pattern).
Nevertheless, you may become aware of the harm junk food is doing to you and understand that to succeed in life and be happy what you need to do is be optimistic and that you have a choice about it. When you decide you would like to change your way, it’s the first step and the most important one you need to make. Now, I am only saying you have done this for 7 years. There are people who have done it for their whole life — 25, 40 or 60 years. The faster you find the behavior the easier it is to change. The longer you practice the behavior the harder it will be to change it.
In the past I was a mentally lazy person, an impulsive shopper, an alcoholic, addicted to cigarettes and destructive relationships, and quick to get angry or emotional in general. I did not know better. I honestly thought I was that way and I could never change my personality. I did not change for 28 years until I understood that I could be better, and if I wanted to be happy I needed to change my life. There is when I made the change. Even though I was changing every 7 years before my real change, the previous changes didn’t amount to much because I was continuing practicing many of the same behaviors.
It was not until I started reading, being conscious of my actions, listening to people who are more capable than me, meditating, eating healthily, setting goals, planning, saving money, forgetting about materialism and caring about others that I started to change, and my life reflects the change compared to 7 years ago (Many people don’t believe who I used to be when I tell them, and people who know me from my past don’t believe the change I’ve made).
Do this experiment: Go back to your picture collection and compare your pictures every 7 years, and you will notice the difference. If you compare pictures that are 2 or 3 years apart there will not be a big difference.
Here is the key to changing your life. You need to be aware and make an effort to do the things that are difficult for you. For example, if you never exercise and you quit a week after you start every time, you need to understand that you will be quitting every time unless you make a conscious effort not to; it will be difficult to exercise unless you decide to do it no matter what stands in your way. When your subconscious takes over, you will quit again, but when you consciously think you need to start exercising again, you will. This will be a fight until your new behavior gets recorded in your subconscious, and then you won’t have to fight any longer because it is a new habit.
If you have a negative thinking pattern, you can start recording your thoughts, or you can ask people around you to tell you when you are negative and you need to change one of those thoughts to a positive one or focus on the positive. For sure, you will relapse and think negatively again, but you need to consciously think positively again. It will take time before you change your thinking, but once again, once you have done it long enough, the fight you had in the beginning will be there no more.
All your fights will be difficult at first, but after a while you will need no effort once your subconscious has recorded the new program. It will take a lot of repetition and persistence to do it, but it will happen.
So if you want to change your way and be a better person, lose weight, have a successful relationship, have a job that you love or open your own business, be healthy, stop living paycheck to paycheck, be optimistic, and be successful in all areas of your life, you need to start practicing new habits. You need to start now; you will relapse many times, but you will be on your way to being a different person in 7 years.
I personally can tell you I am so happy I have changed my life for a better one even though it was difficult in the beginning. The only thing I regret is that I did not do it 7 or 14 years earlier; I would be in a better place now.
It is never too late to start enjoying your life, but don’t waste any more time living a life that you don’t truly enjoy. Stop blaming it on your genes and take responsibility for your happiness. When you’re 7 years older you will be glad you did.
I travel to Mexico every year, and people usually ask me days before my trip if I am excited about the trip, and my answer is no. I also remember when I was about to get my knee surgery I got asked the day before if I was nervous. And hours before my seminar presentation, I was asked if I get nervous about being on stage. The answers are no.
I have learned to live the moment and not think about the future…
However, many times I forget. For example, many times I start to meditate, and I am thinking about reading because I have not read; or I am reading and I am thinking about how poor my meditation was; or I want to go back to meditate while I am writing my next column. Even though I have learned to live the moment, many times I need to be reminded about how important it is to be in the moment.
When I live the moment I enjoy my time, and everything is happening within the moment. Not only that, but I am more efficient by listening to people, not forgetting things, getting my ideas clear and putting all my energy into what I am doing.
This is why I don’t get excited before traveling or while traveling or nervous about my knee surgery or my speech. I start to get excited when the airplane lands or nervous when I am getting the anesthesia or when I am stepping on stage.
I have seen many people wasting their time with their loved ones when they are having dinner together and texting on their phone…
These people are not living the moment and are lost in their phone. Have you had a conversation with someone who is not present? While you are focused on the conversation the other person is thinking about something else. How beneficial do you think this conversation can be?
Where there is focus, energy flows. I heard this somewhere. The truth is that whatever we focus on we put energy into, and many people put energy into the “not real world.”
In this same way many people live in fear…
Many people worry so much about the future and things that have not happened yet. They worry about cancer, losing their jobs, losing a loved one, getting into an accident, getting injured, about many things that can happen. They aren’t living in the present. Other people are stuck in the past suffering for what happened and want to bring the past to the present to fix the mistakes. While it’s true that it’s okay to visit our past to learn not to make the same mistakes, it is painful and a waste of time trying to change the past.
Can you imagine how much time people spend in their past or future?
With this I am not saying that we should ignore reality and not be ready for any of the negative situations that can happen in the future, but instead of worrying, it is important to take action to prevent them. To take action to protect our future is very smart. However, to worry about something that may not happen does not make sense. One suffers more in the anticipation of the pain that something can bring than from the event itself.
On the other hand, many people get very excited about things that are supposed to happen:
a wedding, a new car, a new house, a new job, an event — and when these don’t come to fruition, they get upset and distressed. Once again, I am not saying not to have faith and stop working to make your dream or event come true. What I am saying is it’s important to live the moment and enjoy the present, let the future manifest and the past rest. The past is not real anymore, and the future does not exist yet.
The present is real. Many times we let the best moments pass because we continue thinking about the past and future. This specific present moment will never come back, and when you are into the next moment you will wish you would have enjoyed that specific moment.
Many people are looking forward to not being single anymore, and they want a relationship. When they are in a relationship, they want to get married. Once they are married, they’re thinking about children. Then they want their children to grow up and be free. When they are alone then they realize that they never enjoyed their life and they were so busy living in the future that their past is gone. Now trying to live the past and fix what is done and long gone does not make sense. It makes sense to live in the present, doesn’t it?
I have learned to feel the moment…
to look for the unique things of it, to listen and to watch. Living the moment is to understand the emotions that I am having within the moment. If I am happy in the moment, I think about what’s making me happy or if I am sad I think about why. We all have our moments of sadness, happiness, anger, joy, deception, pride, embarrassments, confidence, etc.
Being present has helped me live fully, make better choices, control my emotions, be a better person, help others, find my mistakes, empathize with others, express myself better, and live my life.
I still make mistakes, of course. I still visit my past and learn from it. I have goals set up and work on them no matter what. Plan and take action, but I continue doing my best to live the moment.
To the pharaoh the dream was a nightmare…
He wanted to know what it meant, and the only person who could understand the dream was Joseph, so he had Joseph brought to him to interpret it. Once Joseph was in front of him, he started to tell him his dream. It was about 7 fat cows, 7 skinny and ugly cows, 7 healthy heads of grain and 7 sprouted heads of grain. The 7 skinny cows ended up eating the fat cows and the same happened with the heads of grain.
Joseph told the Pharaoh the meaning:
Egypt will endure 7 years of abundance and 7 years of scarcity. If the people don’t get ready for the times of scarcity, they will suffer, and Egypt may perish.
After having my knee surgery, I had some family problems and some business problems with employees and clients, there were promises I could not keep (opening CBF at Glenwood Springs) because of third parties, my car’s suspension broke and a developed an engine problem we couldn’t figure out, my apartment needed repairs, and I couldn’t focus at work no matter how hard I tried. It sounds very simple, but when there is a string of events that don’t allow me to move forward, it is frustrating.
The good thing is that I have money saved for repairs for my car and my apartment…
I don’t need to put anything on a credit card. Also, being in shape helped me recuperate from the surgery faster. Caring about my family also helped me solve my problems with them, and the same is true with my employees and clients.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining, which is an unattractive trait. Complaining about my car, my job, my employees, my apartment, my life, my day, my situation, my lack of understanding, my family, the hospital system or my knee won’t make any difference. In fact, putting a negative perspective on those things will take energy from me.
Complaining is only for the weak…
Instead I like to give thanks for what I have and how great my life is compared to many others. In reality, my problems are not bigger than those of others. Yes, its true that not moving forward and progressing is a sign of getting smaller. But I think about those that need more help than I do. Therefore, I also continue focusing on helping those who are more in need.
What I have as an advantage is that I know times with skinny cows are going to come…
Therefore I get ready and prepare to endure those skinny cows.
I save money, I become wiser and stronger, I nurture my relationships, and I take care of my health. Ignoring reality won’t help me to continue moving forward.
As you probably know, if you have been following me, I come from a very poor family. Of course, my dad is as poor as I was. He could not see progress until I started to mentor him on how to take care of his health, spirit and money. When I was going through the skinny cow season, my dad helped me a lot by working on my car. I was stressed because we could not figure out what was wrong with the engine, and I bought a lot of parts to try to fix the problem. I remember my father telling me that it was a good thing I had the money to fix it and to imagine if I did not have the money.
Can you imagine having a broken car and apartment and not having the money to fix them? Or not having the money to pay your employees? Or can you imagine having a heart attack or hemorrhage or complications from a knee surgery because you didn’t take care of your health.
Just like exercising, learning and meditating, being ready for the skinny cow season is a must to ensure a high quality of life rather than just going with the flow.
“I don’t have time…”
This is one common excuse we use not to do the things that matter. Many times we opt to stay busy doing the small and easy tasks and leave the hard tasks that matter for later. This is one of the reasons we are stuck and it is difficult to achieve our dreams. Hence our dreams come with obstacles that need to be overcome.
There is time for everything we care about and that is important to us. For example, for me these things are important: reading, eating healthily, exercising, Custom Body Fitness staff, meditating, CBF members, my dogs, my family and writing. If we are talking about learning, progressing, caring, changing this world to a positive one, becoming a better person and improving my life, I do have time.
If you have been following me for a while now, you probably know that I come from a very dysfunctional family and one of the poorest areas in Mexico City. I came as an illegal alien when I arrived to the U.S. For 10 years of my life after I came to the U.S. I was lost; I owned nothing and owed a lot of money.
My life did a turnaround when I turned 28, and now I have achieved many of my goals, such as owning real estate, running two Custom Body Fitness gyms with great staff, having money saved and invested, writing and publishing a book (my second book is coming up soon), creating a nonprofit, influencing the community for a healthier life, and traveling to Machu Picchu, some places in the U.S. and Mexico every year for vacation. I am living a life I never thought I could have. And I have achieved these goals only because I opened time for it.
I am not saying that to talk about me really. Many people have achieved more than me. I am telling you part of my story to prove to you how “I don’t have time” is only an excuse.
The reality is that I have many vendors walking to my offices, many phone calls and emails from solicitors who promise that they will help grow Custom Body Fitness and people who claim to add value to my life. Also, I have many invitations about going partying and having fun because I work too much, according to them. I have been invited to dance classes and events. In fact, I have put my goal of learning how to swim on the side (which I need to start as soon as possible). My answers have been “I don’t have time.”
I just moved to a new condo, and I noticed that the condo needs a lot of improvement. While I am continuing doing my daily duties at CBF and personal life, I have opened time to improve the condo. Why didn’t I use the excuse “I don’t have time”?
Here is the truth that I think you know…
We do have time for the things we want to have time for.
Many people have time to surf the web, watch meaningless TV programs, party, talk on the phone for hours about nothing productive, drink and so on. But they don’t have time to exercise, cook, read or listen to their loved ones. I am not saying that is wrong or right. My point here is that we open time to whatever is important to us.
On the other hand, there are people who are busy doing worthwhile things but they avoid the tasks that really matter, which are difficult and tedious. For example, a guy can be cleaning his car or a woman doing her hair paying attention to the finest detail and spend far more time than is necessary. While it is important to have a clean car and beautiful hair, they ignore their exercise, the prospector call, the cooking, the improvement their business needs or the book they need to read to improve their skills.
We are always going to have time to do the things that matter to us…
Coming up with the excuse “I don’t have time” is just that, an excuse. We know that it is only an excuse.
One of the things that I do to see if my excuse is valid is to find out why and when I am coming up with my excuse and compare it to my values and priorities.
For instance, if someone calls me and is trying to sell me the most revolutionary marketing tool ever invented and promises me that without effort I am going to become rich, “I don’t have time.” If someone walks into my door and is trying to seduce me with a big percentage profit by selling his/her supplements, “I don’t have time.” If someone tells me, “You’d better watch Dancing with the Stars,” “I don’t have time for it.” The reason is because I know there is no easy way to become successful, and I don’t have time for lies and empty promises. I don’t sell products and supplements that don’t contribute to health. I don’t see how watching meaningless programs will help me progress. My priorities and values do not match with any of these events, and this is why “I don’t have time for it.”
However, I have not made swimming and archery a priority. When I say, “I don’t have time for it,” I know I am only making excuses. Therefore, my conscience tells me that I need to get on it and stop making excuses.
The question now arises:
when is your “I don’t have time” real and when does it become an excuse that keeps you from reaching your goal and improving your life?
Be honest with yourself and think about the goals that you have put on the side for many years and have not had the pleasure to enjoy only because “you don’t have time.”
You woke up to be successful today…
It does not matter what you woke up for, but the goal is to succeed in whatever you have planned.For example, driving to work should be a success: You plan to be at work. You do not plan to get into an accident or wake up to a broken-down car or to be waiting in traffic all day.
This is one of the reasons people enter into depression:
They don’t see themselves succeeding, and therefore they don’t even try to get a job, write a proposal, drive, learn, help and so on.
But I know this is not you. You are planning to succeed in your day. You are waking up every day to do better and get all the tasks done right. You know by now that to be successful you must work for it.
You are going to fail many times…
you are going to find obstacles; you are going to find people who are not supportive of your life; you are going to be afraid; life will get in the way; you are going to suffer inconveniences; you are going to feel lazy; you are going to feel confused; you are going to be rejected; you are going to feel alone… Be successful anyway.
What else you are going to do? We all are going to die. That is part of life. There is no escape. The only way you can be remembered is by leaving a legacy, and you can have a legacy only by being successful.
There is no reason not to be successful…
Success is not only an event. It also helps us to be happy. As you probably know, we need dopamine to be happy, and there are many ways to release or get dopamine. We release dopamine by doing drugs like cocaine, psychiatric pharmaceuticalsand alcohol. Eating sugary foods can also release dopamine. But these behaviors have negative side effects. In contrast, succeeding in each goal you have set up gives you a shot of dopamine with no negative side effect (assuming your goals are focused on good will).
That does not mean that you should expect to succeed each time you do something. It means to persist without giving up until you succeed.
I am going to use myself as an example. I announced the opening of our second location in
December 2016. We were supposed to be open in January 2017. Eight months passed, and I could not open our second location. It was because of the city inspections, the owner’s decision to continue moving forward or because the location did not meet our requirements. There was a lot of real drama. We looked for another place without succeeding, and finally we found two options. One had great potential, but the other one had everything we were looking for. Even though I was under a lot of stress trying to open on time for those who signed up, I never gave up. I continued looking until I found the right place that meets all of our requirements.
As you see, it took me almost a year to complete my goal, but I did it. I succeeded. This is what Thomas Edison and Michael Jordan did in their lives. They failed many times but never gave up. They finally succeeded in their goals.
You are made to be successful no matter how many times you fail…
There is no better feeling than dopamine and adding value to your life and others’ by succeeding in your goals, and you will be remembered because of your goals and the change you have made in this life, your legacy.
Experience life; it is okay to fail — it will make your success even more fulfilling. Sacrifice momentary pleasures, time, money, security, fun and yourself and endure pain, stress, criticism and boredom to be successful. Be successful in all areas of your life. Be successful in your happiness. Be successful by having a connection with God, by taking care of your precious family, and in your health, profession, financials and knowledge (become the best you can be and become smart by learning what makes you passionate).
Don’t leave your life to destiny. Make your destiny and succeed no matter what.
I hear that businesses and people really show how strong they are when times get tough…
That success isn’t determined when days are nice and sunny but when they are cloudy and dark. When times get tough only the strong stay standing.
Habits are what define us and make us who we are. Many of us can stay strong in tough times because of the habits we have developed. One of the habits that have helped me be strong is to always do my best. I have rainy days, tiring days, sad days, disappointing days, confusing days, lazy days, unorganized days, busy days, dark days and all kinds of negative days that you can probably imagine. I bet you have also had them all. No one is exempt from them. What I keep in mind is that no matter what kind of day I’m having I always need to do my best.
This is the way I get out of my comfort zone…
I usually know what I am capable of, and therefore I expect that level of performance every time I wake up. Why should I be performing less than usual? Because I know that whatever I put into something is what I’ll get in return, why not just give it all?
I think one of my weaknesses (or strengths) is that I get upset with myself when I feel tired, when I am confused and I don’t know how to improve and continue moving forward. I don’t like feeling tired, and I bet no one does. However, on those days I find the way to break through. Mother Teresa said that the most worthy smile is when we must force one. Everyone can think positively and be happy when things go right, but we can see who’s strong when things go wrong by seeing if they continue smiling and doing their best.
I can’t imagine waking up and saying, “Today I am going to have a mediocre day.” What kind of day would I have? Can you imagine one of my client’s assessments? I am going to listen to you in just a mediocre way. Today is my mediocre day, so you are going to have to wait until I am ready. I can’t put up with that because it is my mediocre day. I am leaving early today even if you need more time because it is my mediocre day.
Or at my exercise session, “Today I am going to lift lighter because it is my mediocre day.” “I am just going to do what I feel like doing because it is my mediocre day.” “I am going to eat Fritos and McDonalds today; it does not matter because it is my mediocre day.” “I might get on time to my session; I am mediocre today. I am just going to perform mediocre because I feel lazy.” Can you see how I am already giving up on doing my best?
Can you imagine having a mediocre day once a week?
Or maybe twice? Or maybe three days? Or why not the whole week? How productive can that be? How professional or reliable or trustworthy can I be? What results can I deliver in my life? How successful can I be?
My goal is not to have mediocre days. Therefore, I wake up every day doing my best. If life is not going the way I want it to, I still wake up and perform as if my life is perfect. If my days are dark I still show everyone that I can continue moving forward and I can serve them. Yes, it’s true when those difficult days hit me, things are more difficult to do, but I still do what it takes. I continue smiling, listening 100% to all my clients, staying late at work if I have to, being on time, improving my habits, understanding people, exercising with the same intensity, controlling my mind and body, doing the difficult stuff, and becoming a better person.
I keep in mind what I am planning and working for because my hard effort does pay off in the end. Thinking that I am wasting my time and my life by not improving my health, mind, finances, knowledge, strength, family and the world makes me sad and upset.
Think about the results you want with your family, health, body, finances, job and life…
I do request the best for my life, but if I request the best I need to give my best. I bet you also want the best for your life and don’t want to have mediocre family, health, body, finances, job and life.
So each time you wake up the first thing you should ask is how can I improve my situation? What can I do better today? What do I need to learn? What was the mistake I made yesterday? Who needs my attention? Who needs to forgive me for my mistakes? Is learning today making me a better person? Does being noble and understanding that I make mistakes make me a better person? Does exercising make me a better person? Does helping others make me a better person?
I know I am having a hard time today, but I am doing my best, and this difficult moment won’t ruin my situation and won’t stop me from moving forward to improve myself. Here now is when I see how strong I am. How I can overcome these problems with the best attitude and without complaining, because complaining will only take energy from me, not help me progress. Plus other people have their struggles as well, and complaining won’t help them.
Doing my best is not only for the moment when I feel like it, doing my best is a lifestyle.
One of the things I think is fun is checking things off my list…
I have a list of goals that I check every day, and I have another list of goals that I check every week.
The daily goals are usually systems that I have created that help me achieve the long-term goals, which are the ones I check weekly.
Having the list not only helps me save time, but it also helps me be less stressed and determine if I am moving forward on the right track. If I don’t follow my list of daily goals, I notice that I start getting busy with things that don’t matter and end up getting stressed because I have not achieved anything.
You know the days when you have not done much, but you have a feeling of accomplishment? That’s because you focus on your daily goals and know that you have progressed. However, other days you feel like you did a lot yet have a sense of frustration by the end of the day because you didn’t follow your goals and wasted your time on trivial things.
This is how many of us live our lives…
I used to do this. You can turn 28 years old (or 35 or 50) and have the frustrating feeling that you’ve done nothing because you don’t have goals and just go with the flow.
When I turned 28, I meditated my life and noticed that I had nothing. Well, I had a couple of thousand dollars in debt, but that was it. It was because I had no direction or goals to follow. I examined my past life, and everything I had done was nothing more than throwing my life and time in the trash. Now after 8 years I feel different. I have created more than ever in my life. I have two businesses that my co-workers run, I published one book and am ready to publish a second one. I paid all my debt. I have an apartment.
I know all this is not much, and I can lose it at any time because life is never safe. But what I am proud of is that I have become a person who can create, and this is the power of goal setting.
When you know what you want and set goals, you start working towards them…
This is like exercising or building a brick wall. In the beginning you may not see much of a difference. But if you continue working towards your goals, you start seeing results as time passes.
You can set financial goals, spiritual goals, relationship goals, business goals, health goals, charity goals, material goals, hobby goals and personal goals. I set goals in my spiritual, family, health, professional and financial area.
Here is a great example: If your goal is to own a house, maybe you can start by saving a down payment for an apartment, buy the apartment, save more money while you pay off the loan, sell the apartment and buy a house. You can set how much money you need and how long and what you need to do to save it, how long it will take you to pay off the apartment and how to save extra to pay for your new house. This may take you a few years, but if you have your goal in your head, you can do extra stuff every day to reach your goal compared to going with the flow and not achieving anything.
The same thing happens with weight loss:
If you have the goal of losing 50 pounds, you know you need to lose at least 4 pounds a month to get to your yearly goal. If you keep your goal in mind, you will be working on your eating and exercise and choose the right behaviors every day. It may take you even less time. Four pounds a month may not seem like a lot, but over a year it adds up.
Goal setting gives you the opportunity to aim for something. Can you imagine playing basketball or soccer without a basket or goal? What about driving without a destination? This is how many people live their lives, without sense. Goal setting gives you the opportunity to keep track and not waste your energy trying to aim at something that doesn’t really exist.
All successful people use goal setting. Many write their goals down, and others only think about their goal every day, but they have set a target. I think writing them down is more effective so you can refer to them when you are getting discouraged. But for many, especially the driven ones, it’s not necessary to write them down. But once again, what is important is that you have a target or goal.
The human body has been designed to dophysical activity…
Back in the past our ancestors used their body properly. The hunted and gathered and later harvested crops and foraged for firewood. They traveled on foot and built things by hand, including their houses. Nowadays, we have designed machines that do many physical activities for us. Our ancestors were healthier because of the active lifestyle they had and therefore live longer.
I remember when I used to get up to turn the channel notch of the television, no too long ago (Well, at least is what I want to think). Now, people can do it from their comfortable spot with the help of the remote. We travel everywhere by car and machines do many of our physical tasks. There is no need for much physical activity anymore.
I don’t think there is nothing wrong with us coming up with new inventions that make our life easier. However, the consequences that come with it can’t be avoided and ignored, they need to be approach. We look for ways to make our life easier with less physical activities…
In truth, without all those labor-saving devices, my profession wouldn’t exist. You need dedicated professionals like me to help you get back in shape. The human body needs to find ways to compensate for its lack of physical activity.
The reality is that we live less than our ancestors; we are less healthy and we develop more diseases than our ancestors. And this can be because of our lifestyle we are living.
The less we use our body, the faster we lose it. We aged faster, gain weight, lose muscle and bone mass, lose stroke volume, become less flexible, acquire aches and pains, risk injury and become less useful.
To avoid many of these problems such diseases, injury from falling and getting old faster, we must exercise.
Being physically active is what the human body is designed do. So make your life easier by exercising regularly. Five hours a week can keep you fit, 3 hours of strength training and 2 hours of cardiovascular training. The reward of the exercise habit can’t be achieved by any other way. If exercise were in form of pills, it will be the pill more prescribed (I read this statement somewhere).
When we make a change in our balanced environment or homeostasis, we need to always compensate to have a harmonious life.
I have been conducting research about foods and many professionals such as George Aisman (RD), Colin Campbell (biochemist and author), Jane Plant (PhD and author) Anthony Robins and Michael Pollan recommend usually the same pattern of eating to prevent cancer and of course obtain the desired weight you have always been looking for.
Here I am going to summaries a couple of important points for your weight loss…
Oxygen is necessary to be able to keep the metabolism high and keep our cardiovascular and lymph systems clean. To deliver the necessary oxygen needed by our body, cardiovascular and muscular training, meditation and breathing properly is important.
Water is a nutrient that the human body needs to survive and stay healthy…
The body is made of 80% water. A 5 to 8% decrease of water can cause fatigue and dizziness. Over 10% can cause physical and mental deterioration. When the body loses more than 15% to 25% of water it can be fatal. To hydrate the body, drink water free of any chemicals or man added minerals. Listen to your body in regard to hydration. The best way to stay hydrated is to eat foods high in water content which are also good cleansing foods. Fruits, Vegetables and sprouts are foods high in water content.
Overeating shortens a person’s lifespan. Overeating is a factor of obesity, diabetes and other metabolic problems…
Portion control is an easy habit to practice when people understand the reasons why they overeat. Overeating can be a side effect from not eating at a regular schedule, eating emotionally or state of mind.
Processed sugars are a contributor to obesity and other metabolic diseases…
Fruits are natural sugars that contribute to good health. Fruits are the best form of sugar that can be eaten. Fruits have many positive effects in the body, including helping the individual achieve a healthy body weight.
Animal protein is not needed for the human body to stay healthy…
However, many people like meat. I think it is okay to eat meat, but with the awareness of the portions that we eat every day. Eating meat once a day is what I recommend. In addition, find local meat, free of hormones and antibiotics. If it is beef it should be grassfed.
Now it is time to talk about the last point. Buy real food. Everything else has the potential to develop a disease in your body and increase your body weight. Real foods are everything closest to the natural state, fruits, vegetables, grains, sprouts and meats. Keep in mind that these products can be manipulated by humans by using pesticides, hormones, antibiotics and other harmful substances. Most packaged food has preservatives, chemicals, high fructose corn syrup, and other ingredients that are not meant to be eaten. One of the recommendations I give is to cook at home. When you cook at home, you know what ingredients you are using; you don’t use high fructose corn syrup or any other preservatives or chemicals, right? I don’t think it is bad to eat a pastry or piece of cake on special occasions (Once every week or so) if you make it at home or you are sure that the ingredients are natural which it will lead you to buy locally. Mother Earth has provided us with the nutrients that we need. Real foods are not harmful. The problem is when we eat things that are not made to eaten.
Following these recommendations will aid you in achieving your weight loss goals and have a healthier lifestyle. I’m only one source to your health. There are many professionals that are available to help you have a healthier lifestyle. Continue with your own research and don’t forget to meditate any information you.