To me it is very important to understand my clients in order to help them reach their goals. When I interview them, one of the questions I ask is what they want to get from exercising. Many of them are shy about telling me the real reason. But I don’t blame them because I would be shy as well talking to a stranger and telling that person about my life or the real reasons I want to exercise.
As we warm up and start talking about their real issues, we discover many things. I have come to the conclusion that most of us are looking for almost the same goals, but we express them differently.
Let me tell you what I have found out…
maybe you can relate. We want to stay younger; be healthy, in shape (tone body and low body fat) and energetic; have stamina; enjoy longevity; be stress free; be independent; increase our sex drive; be sharper; be more self-confident; have a stronger body and fit into our clothes, among others positive things.
If you related to this and know how it feels (low self-esteem, not happy with the way our body looks, unhealthy, tired, embarrassed not to be able to do many physical activities, old, lethargic, weak, and not able to buy the clothes we like but instead what fits), you probably agree that it’s time to change.
This is why many of us look for help…
We are tired of the pain of those feelings, and that pain is stronger than the pain of changing. However, many of us don’t want to take the steps in life required to really experience such change.
Many of us spend $4 for a coffee at Starbucks, yet we think that a dozen organic eggs are expensive at $4 compared to the conventional ones that cost $2.99. Or we spend $100 in a night out every weekend or twice a week when we can cook at home and save $60 each time and we don’t want to spend $150 in a good exercise program. Or we buy a couple of drinks for $9 each plus tip, and we complain that organic is more expensive.
Many of us complain about how expensive healthy food, a gym membership or a personal trainer is, but we don’t pay attention to all the money that we spend on things that don’t contribute to our goal.
With this I am not saying that people should not buy a cup of coffee or go out and eat…
What I am saying is that many people don’t notice how their money is spent. Even when it’s about an investment to improve our life, we think it should be cheaper even though farmers worked hard to bring such healthy food to our tables. But, once again, we are willing to spend dollars in toxic things such as alcohol.
When I learned that conventional foods contribute to many diseases such as cancer and diabetes, I decided to start buying organic. The issue back then was that I was broke and in debt. I was at least $5,000 in debt, had no job and owned a business that was taking money instead of providing me with it. Also, my car was broken. But something just made sense to me, and if I wanted to save money and avoid diseases, I need to start buying the right foods. So even though I was in debt, I decided to put a couple hundred dollars more into my credit card.
When I was in that situation I learned a lot about saving money…
and investing it in the right places. That was when I paid a lot of attention to my spending habits. I got out of debt, bought an apartment and helped my business grow. This is what I learned:
Television only takes my time and money. I could save at least $80 a month from cable.
Back then the smart phone was the new thing, and everyone had one. Any plan with data was between $100 to $150 (compared with a plan for calling and texting that cost $40), plus the phone itself that cost from $800 to $1,000. I saved between $60 to $110 a month, and I kept my Sony Erikson i810.
I stop driving everywhere and taking unnecessary trips, which saved me a couple of tanks of gasoline a month from $20 to $0.
I stopped eating out, which saved me around $80 a week.
I stopped buying clothes because I liked them and bought only when I needed them. That saved me around $150 a month.
I stopped spending money on my car, which was one of my hobbies. I concluded that all the money I put into it will devalue just like the car itself. I can only estimate how much money I wasted, around $20,000. So I am guessing I also saved a good amount of money here.
Once I did some accounting, I was saving at least $600 a month. I can only imagine how much money someone who eats out every night and buys drinks at the bar can spend a week.
Even though there are some people who can’t afford a gym…
or personal training memberships, they should at least be able to invest their money in their food, buying the most healthy and organic food available. In the long run, they will save more money avoiding cancer and other diseases.
When someone comes to me and tells me they can’t afford a gym membership or a group training program, I can only think that they don’t want to afford it or they simply don’t see the value of it.
We are always going to spend money, either for bad habits or good habits. The problem is not spending the money; the real question to ask is, are you wasting your money or are you investing it?
So if you want to change your life and get any of the results I mentioned earlier, you have to ask yourself, is where I am putting my money helping me reach my desired goals or getting me away from it.
No matter how much money you end up making…
you always are going to find a way to spend it, and the truth is that many times what should be a priority is not and what is not becomes a priority. I see some people driving luxury cars and stopping in a fast food restaurant.
Nowadays I invest my money in seminars, courses, books (a lot of books), exercising, food, real estate, Custom Body Fitness, my family, charity, tools that I need for work and to help others, anything that is going to drive me closer to my goals and not farther away from them. For example, I would never spend $8 for a drink, but I would spend $30 for a book. If I buy a pair of pants that cost me $150 and I wear them very often, it is money well spent. But if I spend $15 for it and wear it only once, I have wasted my money.
So if you want to stay younger; be healthy, in shape and energetic; have stamina; enjoy longevity; be stress free; be independent; increase your sex drive; be sharper; be more self-confident; have a stronger body and fit into your clothes, invest your money in the right place.
When it’s about losing weight, nothing superficial works in the long term…
though things might work for shorter periods. For example, a weight loss pill may work for a couple of weeks, but then people can’t lose any more weight and usually regain the weight they lost. Surgery works for a couple of years, but soon people start gaining the weight back.
The real problem is the habits that are still there. Those same behaviors will make the person regain the weight. When I sit with our members at Custom Body Fitness, I always listen to their stories. I can make a lot of conclusions from these stories and give our members feedback. One of the reasons why people can’t change their habits is because of their beliefs.
Beliefs are what make us…
For example, the other day I had a discussion with a friend about our different beliefs. She said that she had a thyroid condition that is genetic, and I told her that there is no disease that is predetermined by genes. She said that I was wrong. My goal was not to convince her about my beliefs versus her beliefs. So I told her that I do respect her opinion, and she is entitled to think what she believes is true.
I have another friend who had the same thyroid condition, and, after she did some research, she knew that her way of eating was bad and was a big factor in her thyroid condition. Even though her mom had the same thyroid condition and the doctor told her it was genetic, she opted to believe that the problem was under her control. She now has a healthy thyroid without medications and their side effects.
Based on their beliefs, friend number one decided she has no control over her thyroid problem, and therefore only medication can help her. However, friend number two asked for a second opinion from a different doctor and found out that she needed to change the way she eats to control her low thyroid, which she is successfully doing.
My point is not whether the disease is genetic or not…
My point is that based on their beliefs each took a different approach.
So many people come with a belief that a diet or any other superficial method for weight loss will help. For example, I interviewed one of our members who is doing the Keto diet. She said that she was eating more meat than veggies. She continued talking about this diet, and, according to her (because I do not know a lot about it), the diet is more meat, no sugar of any kind and no carbohydrates. She told me that fruits in this diet are out, and she also told me how cottage cheese is okay in this diet.
The Keto diet is now part of our new member’s beliefs…
and even though we have talked about healthy eating, she forgot about some very important points that this diet is not taking into consideration. For instance, fruits are not only sugar, and there is not a considerable amount of sugar in fruits that will make people overweight. As a matter of fact, I have not seen an overweight person who eats only fruits. I have eaten fruits all my life and never had an overweight issue. Also, I have a friend whose diet is fruits alone, and he is one of the skinniest guys I ever met. Steve Jobs ate only fruit, and he was not overweight.
And that’s because fruits are not refined sugars; fruits are whole foods that come in a perfect state for our body to digest. The biggest percentage of a fruit will be water, followed by fiber, vitamin and sugar.
When refined or processed sugar is eaten, it goes straight to the liver, where it needs to be processed into fat and stored. When a fruit is being eaten, the body needs to break it apart with fiber, which helps with digestion. Even the sugar is used for digestion, and no sugar is actually stored. Also, your body will allow you to eat only enough fruit. With refined sugar, usually the body does not how to handle it and you may end up eating more than what you can handle.
Another belief when dieting is that everything that is allowed in the diet…
such as nutrients (protein in this case), is okay to eat. For example, since it’s okay to eat foods high in protein in the Keto diet, it follows that cottage cheese is good. But one of the big factors of being overweight and having diseases is eating processed foods. Most cottage cheese brands have ingredients like grade A lactose, grade A whey, guar gum, carrageenan, locust bean gum, citric acid, lactic acid, phosphoric acid, potassium sorbate, natural flavoring, Vitamin D3 and enzymes.
Another example is when we hear the word vegan. We believe it’s healthy. Beer, alcohol, processed foods such as energy bars and McDonald’s french fries are vegan, but that does not mean they’re healthy.
So when we talk about beliefs, many people have different opinions: the doctor, the other doctor, the nurse, the dietitian, the guru … everyone. The reality is that to find what is true we need to step back from everyone’s opinion — because that is what it is, an opinion — and do our own research from various sources, take our time to meditate on it and make the most educated decision without persuasion.
or a specific exercise for the abs or a hormone treatment. Losing weight is about a lifestyle change, and this is why it is so difficult for so many of us to lose weight. We don’t want to pay the effort of getting off the couch or open time in our busy schedule to exercise, cook, buy whole foods, eat on schedule and make conscious, healthy choices. We want an easy and fast solution to our problems.
So to lose weight the first thing we need to take into consideration is our beliefs and to challenge our beliefs even though that makes us angry, sad or wrong. This will open a door to new solutions that will require action from us and yes, effort getting the real results that we always wanted.
Don’t be a follower be a student.
When I was in my depression, I was going to college. I was taking a couple of psychology classes. At the same time I was doing my own research about human behavior and mental diseases. Some of the information I was learning in college simply did not make sense to me. It had a lot of contradictions about psychiatric drugs and people’s beliefs. Even though I was learning from school, it simply did not make sense. So I decided to continue my research, and I found out many people and even organizations are releasing the truth about psychiatric drugs, and they are fighting against this madness and making people aware of their danger and ineffectiveness.
Here is something funny:
I know that 1/3 of my readers will agree with what I am saying about psychiatric drugs, 1/3 will not be convinced and 1/3 will completely disagree with it. But my goal is not to convince you about the madness of psychiatric drugs. My message is simply that what did not make sense to me, I questioned instead of following what was being taught. The same I think will be good for you. It is important that you question all professionals and ascertain the teachers’ motives and beliefs and do your own research about the information you are getting. If you want to know that truth about anything, it is important that you do a whole unbiased research about the topic you are learning.
Before I used to follow advice from friends, professionals and other sources, such as the television, news programs and documentaries, without questioning their information. I really never learned anything because all I was doing was following instead of studying the information. I was lost trying to be other people by copying exactly what they said.
It was not until I started to question…
that I started to look for other sources of information and— adding what I think is the most important piece — meditating the information. Meditating the information not only made me curious about it, it also led me to more questions and to dig even deeper into other topics. By doing this it helped me find myself and be myself. I became passionate about helping people.
This is when I think magic started because by understanding myself I could start to understand others, empathize with them and understand why we make the decisions we make.
I started to forgive people who hurt me in the past, and I started to accept my mistakes and understand why I was selfish and hurt others. I think forgiveness is very important for the human being. When we forgive others, we get rid of many negative emotions that stop us from growing and make our life miserable.
I have the habit to continue learning…
and the habit of being skeptical, not because I don’t trust but because I like to learn. I usually gather information, meditate it and apply what I have concluded. This is a daily habit: read, meditate and apply the conclusion from the information taken.
Many people are not happy with themselves. Pay attention around you. Many of us are on our cell phone texting, talking, surfing the internet, on Facebook, listening to music, watching television or talking to someone most of the time. Many people don’t have even 10 minutes of silence because they are running away from what’s in their head. This is why they can’t have a moment of silence. And the question is, do you want to be with someone whom you don’t like? Once you find yourself, you are going to love yourself. Once you love yourself, you are going to start loving everyone else and live a happier life.
For me finding myself was one of the most important events…
It is like finding your child after looking for them desperately.
Anyway, there is a lot of myth about fitness and weight loss, a lot of contradictory information. Many times people, who hire me, come confused with so much information. I help them clear their thoughts, but what is more important, I teach them to be independent and start questioning anyone who calls himself authority. We can be persuade for money when we are giving and advise, we can honestly wrong because the information we learned is just wrong from text books and we can be ignorant. You will only discover the truth when you make your research and take time alone to find yourself and make your own conclusions. So don’t follow blinded, be curious and make your research.
Remember that is your health, life and body what you are putting in the line.
I recently got two puppies, and I was potty training them. I am not an expert in the subject, and therefore my puppies had a lot of accidents in the house. I used the two usual training methods: punishment and reward. What I noticed is they learned faster when I gave them rewards than when I was punishing them. In fact, when they were punished, they even got confused and did not know what to do when I gave them rewards. However, confirming with them that they did something against the rules also helped them understand what they should be doing.
I also noticed in my career that people get courage and motivation when there is a reward…
and there is no better reward than achieving their goals. In addition, helping people understand their mistakes and how those mistakes are keeping them from getting to their goals is very helpful.
When there is punishment there is force, and when there is reward there is power. This is the topic that I am reading in a book call Force vs Power.
A train needs to be supplied with fuel to produce force to overcome inertia. As more force is produced, there is more resistance. So there is a constant fight that requires energy supply.
Gandhi use power against the force of Britain, Martin Luther King Jr. used power against the force of discrimination, and Jesus used power against the force of his enemies.
The point is it doesn’t matter how strong force is, power will always defeat it…
Force needs a constant energy supply, but power is just there. Power is smart, prepared, patient, decisive, persistent and peaceful. These are only some of the characteristics of Gandhi, Martin andJesus.
Many times when members start with our program they come very excited to change, or I help them to become very motivated about achieving their weight-loss goals. However, when we start creating a plan, I notice that many want to use force to achieve their goals. They want to follow a diet, a trend or a belief they don’t even understand. This is why many people can’t reach their goals — or when they do they end up regaining the weight — because of the constant energy required to produce force.
However, when we use power instead of force, losing weight becomes easier. You probably have read one of my articles or watched one of my videos where I suggest finding the real reasons you want to lose weight. When you are using your whys you start to use power, because now you are not just forcing yourself to follow a diet. Now you have reasons to change your eating. For example, one of my reasons to eat healthily is I want to preserve my body young, strong and healthy because I like how I feel and how I look. I don’t let myself get overweight or weak. I don’t use force to avoid processed foods — I use my reasoning (power) instead.
Another way you can use power is by understanding your real needs rather than your wants…
For example, you need four basic chemicals (dopamine, endorphins, serotonin and oxytocin) to be happy, and you can produce every single one naturally. For instance, you can produce dopamine by exercising, endorphins by constantly progressing and achieving your goals, serotonin by mentoring and being mentored and oxytocin simply by loving or healthily bonding with others.
In these ways you are using power. Or you can use force, by using psychiatric drugs, cocaine, heroin, alcohol, irresponsible sex or video games, behaviors that will cause negative consequences to come into your life. And don’t misinterpret my meaning; I am not saying that playing videos games, for example, is bad. I am just saying that making these behaviors the source of your chemical will create an addiction, using force to get what you need to be happy.
I have helped many people to lose weight, and they continue with me losing weight, and others are capable enough to do it alone after they learn how to use power instead of force. Following a trendy diet or superficially having a reward is never better than the real reasons you are losing weight and the knowledge of understanding yourself. Power defeats force.
This year start with the right program and mindset with your weight-loss program. Find your power instead of your force.
I remember when I went to school to learn writing…
It was overwhelming (I bet that is what a person, who started a weight loss program, thinks as well). To write an essay of 500 words seemed to be impossible. Now I can write whole books. The same was true when I studied algebra. To learn how to factor and solve for x or y seemed very hard, but I learned.
The truth is that none of these are hard to do, but because we focus on the end results, it seems very difficult and we often get discouraged or afraid to start.
To be able to learn how to write, I needed to know what a sentence is and how to make one. Not only that but how to put my ideas in order, how to deliver the message and so on. The same happened with algebra: I needed to know when to subtract, add, divide, multiply, exchange character places, etc.
Like I said, if you see the whole algebra problem or the whole two pages of writing, it seems overwhelming. Nevertheless, if you focus on only one division or one sentence, it seems simple. This is how life works.
I have many goals in life, and I often get overwhelmed because I get stuck and don’t seem to move forward. I focus on the long-term goal and forget about the small tasks I do that help me get closer to my goal. You may focus on your car, house, business, weight loss, family or investments and become desperate to achieve what you want because it is taking time. But don’t forget about the process that is leading you to your goal.
The process is what matters.
To resolve an algebra problem or write a book takes a process. If you skip one of the steps it messes up the end results. For example, if you do one of the divisions for the algebra problem wrong or you divide instead of multiply, or move the variable to the wrong side, your results will be wrong. If you write an article without engaging your reader or lose your train of thought or don’t come to a conclusion, you lose the reader, and your ultimate goal is lost.
For example, many people who want to lose weight focus on the end results, and they are weighing themselves very often if not every day. They start exercising and they don’t eat healthily. By the end of the month or two months later they don’t see any changes on the scale. They get discouraged and stop making the effort to lose weight. This is like using only division in one of my algebra problems or checking my results each time I take a step without luck of getting the right answer.
Or many people when they start their weight loss program focus on everything they need to do to get results, such as cooking, being aware of whole foods, weight lifting 3 times a week, walking 3 times a week, waking up earlier, taking time from other practices, getting a gym subscription, hiring a personal trainer, learning about healthy food choices, delegating tasks to the family, driving to the gym and so on. To them it seems a lot. Just like when I started to write a page essay. It was a lot. What was I supposed to say? Who can write so much? Who is going to read it? Who can I explain it to? How can I start? What is going to be my conclusion? Is it going to take a lot of my time? I might need to rewrite a sentence many times? I need to think, and it’s boring.
When we focus on the whole process it is overwhelming just like when we focus only on the results without seeing them.
Once again we forget that we need to take every single step and do it right to get results…
For example, in an algebra problem, instead of thinking about all the division, addition, etc., we start by distributing the negative sign to the numbers needed and then we can add like terms and so on. We are following a process step by step. It is not overwhelming anymore. If we continue taking the right steps we will get the right results without having to be checking every time we take a step forward.
The same applies to weight loss…
Instead of thinking about all the things we need to do to lose weight we can start with the basics, such as cooking every day, eating breakfast, and going for a 30 minute walk 3 times a week. If we continue taking the right steps without checking the scale every day, just as with the algebra problem, we will get the results we desire.
When we get overwhelmed and start thinking about the results only, we lose sight of the small tasks we do to get the results. Can you imagine an athlete thinking about only her next match and being desperate for it without focusing on her training regimen, doing anything at anytime whenever she wants and not tracking her progress? What do you think would be the results?
To get real results it is very important to focus on the small tasks, because they add up to the results we get in the end. If we don’t, chances are that our results will be the wrong ones.
I have being paying close attention to how our body and our life transforms about every 7 years. For example, our cells are replaced every 7 years, our bones are replaced every 7 years and we are programmed for life in our first 7 years. I remember reading in a book by Carlos Cuauhtémoc Sanchez where he mentions that if we go back and check our pictures from seven years ago we will have changed our way of dressing, our facial futures, our hair style and other features.
What really caught my attention was a video of Bruce Lipton explaining how what we experience in our first 7 years influences how we are going to behave for our rest of our life (unless we do something about it). He further explains that our genes do not have any control over our future.
For example, if in his first 7 years of life a child has been taught to live in fear and he has been overprotected, he will behave like that for the rest of his life. If the child was abused or was taught violence for those 7 years, the child will become a violent adult. This will become his blueprint for life.
This is why it is so difficult to help people change their ways when they’re adults. They’re already programmed to be the way they are. This is the subconscious program that kicks in every time. Many people blame their behavior on their genes, but really it was the behavior that they were taught starting at birth, and because our parents are the ones with such behavior, we think it’s genetic.
It is like a machine that is controlled by a program. It will do only what the software or the program is commanding. To help the machine behave differently, a different program needs to be downloaded.
People who want to change their life do have an option to be happy instead of negative or to be in shape instead of overweight. People who don’t have a successful relationship can have one. People who are alcoholic can become sober. This is a matter of choice, and I will disclose what I have discovered in a moment.
Let’s go back to the 7 year period. Like I said in the beginning, every 7 years we are a completely different person depending on our environment, food, beliefs, acts and other things.
For example, let’s say that all you eat is junk food the first 7 years. By the time you’re 7 you have already developed a disease, or you are overweight. Or let’s say that your parents are negative and that is what you learned in your first 7 years. By age 7 you are already negative about your life.
To begin with, junk food is tasty and addicting (or if all you know is being negative) and you believe that is who you are and you don’t see your behavior, it will be very difficult to change the way you are eating (or your thought pattern).
Nevertheless, you may become aware of the harm junk food is doing to you and understand that to succeed in life and be happy what you need to do is be optimistic and that you have a choice about it. When you decide you would like to change your way, it’s the first step and the most important one you need to make. Now, I am only saying you have done this for 7 years. There are people who have done it for their whole life — 25, 40 or 60 years. The faster you find the behavior the easier it is to change. The longer you practice the behavior the harder it will be to change it.
In the past I was a mentally lazy person, an impulsive shopper, an alcoholic, addicted to cigarettes and destructive relationships, and quick to get angry or emotional in general. I did not know better. I honestly thought I was that way and I could never change my personality. I did not change for 28 years until I understood that I could be better, and if I wanted to be happy I needed to change my life. There is when I made the change. Even though I was changing every 7 years before my real change, the previous changes didn’t amount to much because I was continuing practicing many of the same behaviors.
It was not until I started reading, being conscious of my actions, listening to people who are more capable than me, meditating, eating healthily, setting goals, planning, saving money, forgetting about materialism and caring about others that I started to change, and my life reflects the change compared to 7 years ago (Many people don’t believe who I used to be when I tell them, and people who know me from my past don’t believe the change I’ve made).
Do this experiment: Go back to your picture collection and compare your pictures every 7 years, and you will notice the difference. If you compare pictures that are 2 or 3 years apart there will not be a big difference.
Here is the key to changing your life. You need to be aware and make an effort to do the things that are difficult for you. For example, if you never exercise and you quit a week after you start every time, you need to understand that you will be quitting every time unless you make a conscious effort not to; it will be difficult to exercise unless you decide to do it no matter what stands in your way. When your subconscious takes over, you will quit again, but when you consciously think you need to start exercising again, you will. This will be a fight until your new behavior gets recorded in your subconscious, and then you won’t have to fight any longer because it is a new habit.
If you have a negative thinking pattern, you can start recording your thoughts, or you can ask people around you to tell you when you are negative and you need to change one of those thoughts to a positive one or focus on the positive. For sure, you will relapse and think negatively again, but you need to consciously think positively again. It will take time before you change your thinking, but once again, once you have done it long enough, the fight you had in the beginning will be there no more.
All your fights will be difficult at first, but after a while you will need no effort once your subconscious has recorded the new program. It will take a lot of repetition and persistence to do it, but it will happen.
So if you want to change your way and be a better person, lose weight, have a successful relationship, have a job that you love or open your own business, be healthy, stop living paycheck to paycheck, be optimistic, and be successful in all areas of your life, you need to start practicing new habits. You need to start now; you will relapse many times, but you will be on your way to being a different person in 7 years.
I personally can tell you I am so happy I have changed my life for a better one even though it was difficult in the beginning. The only thing I regret is that I did not do it 7 or 14 years earlier; I would be in a better place now.
It is never too late to start enjoying your life, but don’t waste any more time living a life that you don’t truly enjoy. Stop blaming it on your genes and take responsibility for your happiness. When you’re 7 years older you will be glad you did.
One of the things I think is fun is checking things off my list…
I have a list of goals that I check every day, and I have another list of goals that I check every week.
The daily goals are usually systems that I have created that help me achieve the long-term goals, which are the ones I check weekly.
Having the list not only helps me save time, but it also helps me be less stressed and determine if I am moving forward on the right track. If I don’t follow my list of daily goals, I notice that I start getting busy with things that don’t matter and end up getting stressed because I have not achieved anything.
You know the days when you have not done much, but you have a feeling of accomplishment? That’s because you focus on your daily goals and know that you have progressed. However, other days you feel like you did a lot yet have a sense of frustration by the end of the day because you didn’t follow your goals and wasted your time on trivial things.
This is how many of us live our lives…
I used to do this. You can turn 28 years old (or 35 or 50) and have the frustrating feeling that you’ve done nothing because you don’t have goals and just go with the flow.
When I turned 28, I meditated my life and noticed that I had nothing. Well, I had a couple of thousand dollars in debt, but that was it. It was because I had no direction or goals to follow. I examined my past life, and everything I had done was nothing more than throwing my life and time in the trash. Now after 8 years I feel different. I have created more than ever in my life. I have two businesses that my co-workers run, I published one book and am ready to publish a second one. I paid all my debt. I have an apartment.
I know all this is not much, and I can lose it at any time because life is never safe. But what I am proud of is that I have become a person who can create, and this is the power of goal setting.
When you know what you want and set goals, you start working towards them…
This is like exercising or building a brick wall. In the beginning you may not see much of a difference. But if you continue working towards your goals, you start seeing results as time passes.
You can set financial goals, spiritual goals, relationship goals, business goals, health goals, charity goals, material goals, hobby goals and personal goals. I set goals in my spiritual, family, health, professional and financial area.
Here is a great example: If your goal is to own a house, maybe you can start by saving a down payment for an apartment, buy the apartment, save more money while you pay off the loan, sell the apartment and buy a house. You can set how much money you need and how long and what you need to do to save it, how long it will take you to pay off the apartment and how to save extra to pay for your new house. This may take you a few years, but if you have your goal in your head, you can do extra stuff every day to reach your goal compared to going with the flow and not achieving anything.
The same thing happens with weight loss:
If you have the goal of losing 50 pounds, you know you need to lose at least 4 pounds a month to get to your yearly goal. If you keep your goal in mind, you will be working on your eating and exercise and choose the right behaviors every day. It may take you even less time. Four pounds a month may not seem like a lot, but over a year it adds up.
Goal setting gives you the opportunity to aim for something. Can you imagine playing basketball or soccer without a basket or goal? What about driving without a destination? This is how many people live their lives, without sense. Goal setting gives you the opportunity to keep track and not waste your energy trying to aim at something that doesn’t really exist.
All successful people use goal setting. Many write their goals down, and others only think about their goal every day, but they have set a target. I think writing them down is more effective so you can refer to them when you are getting discouraged. But for many, especially the driven ones, it’s not necessary to write them down. But once again, what is important is that you have a target or goal.
I have been conducting research about foods and many professionals such as George Aisman (RD), Colin Campbell (biochemist and author), Jane Plant (PhD and author) Anthony Robins and Michael Pollan recommend usually the same pattern of eating to prevent cancer and of course obtain the desired weight you have always been looking for.
Here I am going to summaries a couple of important points for your weight loss…
Oxygen is necessary to be able to keep the metabolism high and keep our cardiovascular and lymph systems clean. To deliver the necessary oxygen needed by our body, cardiovascular and muscular training, meditation and breathing properly is important.
Water is a nutrient that the human body needs to survive and stay healthy…
The body is made of 80% water. A 5 to 8% decrease of water can cause fatigue and dizziness. Over 10% can cause physical and mental deterioration. When the body loses more than 15% to 25% of water it can be fatal. To hydrate the body, drink water free of any chemicals or man added minerals. Listen to your body in regard to hydration. The best way to stay hydrated is to eat foods high in water content which are also good cleansing foods. Fruits, Vegetables and sprouts are foods high in water content.
Overeating shortens a person’s lifespan. Overeating is a factor of obesity, diabetes and other metabolic problems…
Portion control is an easy habit to practice when people understand the reasons why they overeat. Overeating can be a side effect from not eating at a regular schedule, eating emotionally or state of mind.
Processed sugars are a contributor to obesity and other metabolic diseases…
Fruits are natural sugars that contribute to good health. Fruits are the best form of sugar that can be eaten. Fruits have many positive effects in the body, including helping the individual achieve a healthy body weight.
Animal protein is not needed for the human body to stay healthy…
However, many people like meat. I think it is okay to eat meat, but with the awareness of the portions that we eat every day. Eating meat once a day is what I recommend. In addition, find local meat, free of hormones and antibiotics. If it is beef it should be grassfed.
Now it is time to talk about the last point. Buy real food. Everything else has the potential to develop a disease in your body and increase your body weight. Real foods are everything closest to the natural state, fruits, vegetables, grains, sprouts and meats. Keep in mind that these products can be manipulated by humans by using pesticides, hormones, antibiotics and other harmful substances. Most packaged food has preservatives, chemicals, high fructose corn syrup, and other ingredients that are not meant to be eaten. One of the recommendations I give is to cook at home. When you cook at home, you know what ingredients you are using; you don’t use high fructose corn syrup or any other preservatives or chemicals, right? I don’t think it is bad to eat a pastry or piece of cake on special occasions (Once every week or so) if you make it at home or you are sure that the ingredients are natural which it will lead you to buy locally. Mother Earth has provided us with the nutrients that we need. Real foods are not harmful. The problem is when we eat things that are not made to eaten.
Following these recommendations will aid you in achieving your weight loss goals and have a healthier lifestyle. I’m only one source to your health. There are many professionals that are available to help you have a healthier lifestyle. Continue with your own research and don’t forget to meditate any information you.
No long ago I traveled to Machu Picchu. I was amazed not only by the ruins but by where they were built. The place has a divine feeling. It is impossible for me to put the feeling and experience into words.
While there, I also learned how the Incas had a system. Many people, like me, don’t take the time to think about how the ruins were built and the time and effort required. When we think about all the empires and ruins all over the world, we often don’t think about the years it took to build them. It was not an overnight construction or even a couple-of-months project.
Not only did it take time but it required discipline, a plan, structured systems among other things…
The king or leader needed to have control over every single detail to make any of this happen. Of course, just like the present, there are systems they used to control the outcome of their empires.
I could not stop thinking about how many of us want a successful life and to be happy and achieve our dreams — such as losing weight — without even thinking about a process and not taking the time to be disciplined. For example, we think that by taking hormones (or using pomade, or massage treatment, or taking pills, or getting a surgery done) we are going to have a nice body and lose weight.
Many times we put in the effort for one month and get discouraged because we are not where we want to be in a short period of time…
Can you imagine creating an empire in a month by just sitting on the couch contemplating the clouds; or sitting in front of your computer waiting for your multithousand-dollar check without putting in any effort; or having a nice, toned body by getting a massage every day? Everyone by now would have created their empire, be a millionaire and have a nice body.
This is exactly why many of us continue unhappily trying to achieve our dreams. We want things easy and fast. Therefore, we don’t put in the effort, and we get desperate when we don’t see the results.
I became overwhelmed by all my goals and dreams. I started to think about how far I have gotten, but that is nothing compared to how far I wanted to get. It made me think that I needed to be more disciplined about what I do and create a better system and know more and hire the right people to continue improving others’ lives.
I bet everything started with a dream or an idea…
Then that person started to plan and took action. Then he needed to make decisions throughout the process. This is how an empire was created. Nothing happened by accident. We read stories or watch documentaries, and because it takes us only a couple of hours to read or watch a documentary, we can’t really perceive all the years invested in an empire. We have not lived the time and effort invested.
Every decision you make will bring you consequences in the future. People who are successful did not become successful overnight even though it appears that way, just how we perceive an empire when we read or watch a documentary. We have not lived their lives or put in the effort and time like they did.
Successful people have shown us the traits to achieve that same success, but we opt to ignore them…
Now think about your life and see where you are going. If you continue making the same decisions you are making right now, where would you be in 30 years? Is your life looking better? Are you overweight? Are you broke? Are you ill? Are you working in a place you don’t like to work? Are you ignorant? Did you waste time and are you regretting the decisions you made?
Or are you financially free? Healthy with a nice body? Are you practicing your desired career? Are you enjoying every moment with your progress?
Where will you be in 30 years? If you save $5 a day for a year you get $1,825; over 30 years you end up with $54,750. And if you invest that money, it may double by then depending on your investment. But if you do the opposite, you probably will be in debt. The same happens with your food choices. If you have a couple of drinks and eat junk food for dinner every night, where do you think you will be in 30 years — overweight and maybe in the hospital?
The more disciplined and organized you are towards your goals, the more likely you will achieve them…
Every decision, every hour and every day counts when building your empire. Your body is an empire, your family is an empire, your finances are an empire, your connection with God is an empire, your profession is an empire. If you want to be successful in these areas, think about each decision you make every day.
Each decision brings a consequence, and leaders know this. This is why they are able to create empires. This is how you make your life better. This is how you become successful. Everything keeps adding up, and this is what appears to be overnight. Albert Einstein said, “Compound interest is the 8th wonder of the world.” Not only your money compounds with interest when you invest it, but your actions and habits compound over time as well.
If you think about it when you see a friend whom you have not seen in a while and see the change in his or her body, you see the change but you don’t see the effort and time he or she has put in. Also, when you see a financially successful person enjoying his or her life you only see the success, you have not seen the effort and time the person has invested.
So to create an empire it is not enough to wish or dream. It is important to plan, follow systems, discipline oneself and be careful with every single action we take in every moment. These choices will compound overnight either you want to or not.
When I got into exercise, weight lifting, in the year 2001, one of the first things I learned is that if I wanted to grow muscle, I needed to eat foods high in protein…
In fact, most people know about protein shakes. I used to take at least 2 shakes every day. I did not know much about the subject. Like many people, I followed the flow and believed the myths that others told me. Back then, I used to order my protein online. It was cheaper than buying locally. So I ordered protein for other friends as well. A particular friend, who I ordered for, said that protein would give him pimples. Sometimes we don’t use common sense. I had many pimples on my back, but I did not put the dots together. Back then one of my desires was to gain a lot of muscle, be big. So I did not care about any consequences of anything I ate. I used to eat 2 Big Macs at MacDonald’s for lunch often. I used to buy processed food and eat anything because the myth was to eat as much as I could to acquire a lot of protein to build muscle.
At one point in my life, I deeply suffered, but not from the junk food or protein intake. However, that pain opened my eyes. I noticed many things I was doing wrong, such as believing the protein myth. I started a deep research into foods. This led me to study the protein shakes’ ingredients which are full of chemicals that are not made to digest. I continued studying foods and found out that junk food has a lot of chemicals and it was not made for nutrition, but for profit. I stopped drinking protein shakes and eating junk food, as well as fast food. My muscle mass did not decrease, nor did my strength. My energy levels increased, my skin cleared up from the pimples, my stomach problems stopped and I didn’t get sick anymore. It has now been almost 5 years since this specific change.
The protein myth is what I’m going emphasize today…
We tend to believe what the masses believe. If the masses, including school, tell us that diseases are genetic, we believe it. If they say that the economy is bad, we believe it, and if they said that the world is flat, we believe it. This is also true for the protein myth. We believe we need a high intake of protein, either from meat, milk, shakes, tofu or other products. However, many professionals now claim that we can get all the protein we need without eating meat and drinking other mammals’ milk. The reality is that many people are conscious about their protein intake. Even vegetarians look for some source of protein to meet their belief.
As a matter of fact, many people believe that toddlers need a good amount of protein to grow healthy. I read several researches that concluded that formulas weaken the infant immune system, cause stomach discomfort and are a factor for later cancer. The real food that Mother Nature provides for a toddler is the mom’s milk which makes the infant’s immune system stronger by protecting the infant against many diseases, infections and allergies; it helps with the developing of the brain and it decreases the baby’s predisposition to become overweight. In other words, babies who are breastfeeding are healthier than those who are not. Mother’s milk is 2.38 percent protein reducing to 1.2 percent six months later. In other words, when according to society we need the most protein is when we get the least and yet, we grow healthier. So, why is the myth so credible?
No one has an idea about how much protein we need…
Just as any other nutrient, including water, every body is different. Many people think that we need one gram of protein per each kilogram. But it is not only the size of the person, but the physiological needs of the person that determines the protein needed. In addition, Dr. Mark Hegstead’s research suggests that most human beings adapt to whatever protein intake is available to them. Also, new research shows that people do not need to combine foods to get complete proteins from vegetables and legumes. A report by the International Union of Nutritional Science claims that adult males consume 39 to 110 grams of protein. There is more research that claims that we don’t need animal protein to survive, be healthy and strong. In fact, much research shows that meats contribute to obesity and cancer among other disease. My point of view is that most meats are grown with hormones, antibiotics, certain grains and other products that are harmful for us. This is the reason why there is a link to health problems. However, the more I read about food, the more I found that protein from animals is not needed to have a healthy life.
The truth is the Western diet is loaded with animal protein and many of these products have been produced with hormones and other harmful ingredients…
I have cut my animal protein intake by more than fifty percent. I usually only eat meat at my dinner. People who have significantly cut their animal protein intake do lose weight drastically. Our success stories are good example. He cut his meat intake, started to exercise at CBF and lost just over 10 pounds on the scale in his first month, additionally increasing his energy and muscle mass.
Here is my recommendation, if you like animal protein and want to live a healthier life and lose weight, start reducing your meat intake. Eat animal protein, including milk, fish and eggs, only once a day. If you are worried about your calcium intake, you can find calcium in vegetables, such as the turnip greens which have more calcium than milk. Also, calcium is not the only mineral that you need to keep your bones strong; you will find the rest of most minerals in vegetables. In addition, buy local grassfed cattle. Artificially induced hormones do contribute to cancer and obesity. Find a competent dietitian who can help you understand your body needs. There are many people who have gone to a competent dietitian who has helped them to understand their bodies’ needs and they usually ended up cutting meats, especially industrialized meat.