I’m amazed by people who get astonishing results when I assess them. I usually ask myself what is the difference between the people who get results and the ones who struggle. Family responsibilities, work, knowledge, support, money? Even though all of these are contributing factors, one thing sets apart those who get results from those who struggle.
I have clients who work, have more than one child and the support is not ideal. They are some of my best members and lose pounds every week.
Persistence I think is the answer. When people really want something, they make it happen. I have no doubt about this. Many of my clients have shown me that they are capable of doing more than I think they can.
Many people think that those who lose weight have it easy. They may not understand that they needed to make time and not wait until they have time. Nobody has time. They cut television time and ask their husbands to help them with their children. They wake up earlier to cook. They plan their day and find ways to attend their sessions. They continue learning and focus on the healthy things they can do. They improve their eating every week and their strength in training sessions. Weight loss becomes part of their life in a healthy way — not an obsession but a lifestyle.
Do these people have no problems: no bills to pay, family issues, car issues, work issues, healthy issue or other worries? They are just as human as we are. They have problems just like anybody else. This is what really amazed me — the persistence they have, and there is nothing that can stop them. They make no excuses.
If people had no worries it would be easy to lose weight and to have a nice body because there would be no interventions in their program. Everyone could do it. The reality is that no one has no problems, including those who get what they want.
Believe me, I’m aware that life is difficult. I live it myself, and when things get in the way, I find ways to continue persevering toward my goals. Just like my clients, I give away many things that many won’t give way.
Life is always changing, sometimes things are just perfect (up), sometimes they’re crazy (down), that is life. In those down times is when growth happens, when amazing things take place. When only the strong keeps moving ahead.
When things get out of control and are not coming the way we planned, that it is the time when we want to be strong. Anybody can be positive and smile when life is easy, when everything is normal, when there are no problems, when our family is just fine. However, in the hard moments is when we need to be strong, smile, stay positive, find the good in everything and continue persevering toward our goals. This is what sets my clients (and you) apart from the rest who don’t get results when life gets crazy. This is what speaks highly of you!
Brittany was raised in a family that focuses on working and doesn’t have strong beliefs about exercising. Nevertheless, Brittany was an active child, playing basketball and volleyball, running track and doing other activities. As she grew older, she continued doing some biking and hiking. She eats somewhat healthily and has managed to maintain a healthy body weight.
When she hit her 30s, she started to discover that her body was not the same as it used to be when she was in her teens and early 20s. Her body was saggy and no longer toned. She discovered some areas that she didn’t like anymore, such as the inside of her thighs, the muffin tops, the wings on her arms, and her butt not being rounded anymore. She is not the only one to notice these changes at this age. Many other women are in the same hunt for their younger body.
She has heard about weight lifting, but weight lifting is only for men — women can get bulky because of it. She tried it once for a couple of weeks, and it was too difficult, and she heard that she can tone her body by lifting light weight and doing numerous repetitions, so she stuck to that for a while. But she gave up after a year of not seeing results, and tried exercises other than a structured weight lifting program. She is now 50, and she has not discovered how to recover her younger body.
When astronauts are sent to the moon, one of the requirements is to exercise before, during and after the trip. Many of the astronauts upon returning to earth need to relearn how to walk. Since gravity in space and on the moon is minimal, the body does not need to make much effort to travel from place to place or for many other physical tasks.
The human being is very adaptable to the environment in different ways, including physical. For example, Brittany failed to notice that when she was younger she was more active than in her adult life where there are many worries and responsibilities that she needs to prioritize. Even though she has been somewhat active and she has eaten somewhat healthily, she is aging, and the activity that she is doing is not enough to keep up with the biological process of aging.
Just like an astronaut loses his strength because he doesn’t need it in space, Brittany is aging because she is not challenging her body.
Jessica discovered that she can keep her body young at an earlier age. She grew up with a brother who is into weight lifting. In the beginning, Jessica was not interested in weight lifting at all. All she wanted was to tone her body, so in her earlier 20s, she focused on cardio. She noticed that she was losing weight, but her body was not gaining toned. She start noticing that her brother was toned from weight lifting, but she didn’t want to get bulky. So she considered lifting light weights.
She started to make her own superficial research about weight lifting. She found out that what she needed to do is to lift light weights and do high repetitions. But what she didn’t know at that time is that the body will transform only when it gets challenged, and light weight does not challenge the body. But she tried it. After 2 years of light lifting, she didn’t see any definition.
She wondered what she was doing wrong and finally asked her brother, who gave her a quick explanation that guys can get big because of their levels of testosterone. It won’t be possible for her to get bulky because of her level of testosterone. Plus, he reminded her that he is 4 times stronger than her, and for her to lift that much weight is impossible. It took him years of dedication and effort to get to that level.
Jessica trusted her brother, so she decided to try lifting heavier weights. However, she knew that if she tried to lift too heavy a weight she would get hurt. She did not know how to start and let her brother guide her. She learned periodization, the act of increasing resistance to the muscle group as the muscles becomes stronger. Also, she learned about muscle groups and many exercises for each muscle group. Jessica is now in her late 30s, and she has a toned body and feels like a teen again.
To be healthy one needs only to eat healthily, exercise at least 3 times a week for 30 minutes, be flexible and know how to deal with stress. But to take one’s health and appearance to the next level and tone one’s body requires a lot more effort. Not everyone should have a toned body, and not everyone is willing to make the effort to have a toned body. For example, to make $1,000,000 a year requires more effort than making $100,000 a year; having 3 children requires more effort than having one; having a mansion requires more than having a house. Not everyone wants to do the work to make $1,000,000, have 3 children or take care of a mansion.
Nevertheless, there are people who do want more than others, and these people are willing to pay the price for it. The same goes for your body. You are not going to make $1,000,000 with the same effort you made $100,000 or properly raise 3 successful children with the effort you raised one or maintain a mansion with the same resources to maintain a small house. You have to put in more effort. Therefore, I want you to think that you can’t tone your body with the same effort it takes to just lose weight or maintain your body.
For example Brittany was doing only enough to maintain her body weight but not more to tone her body. Her lifestyle is healthy, and there is nothing wrong with it. However, she is not happy with the way her body looks, and she wants to tone her body. Her actions and desires are in conflict. Either she needs to accept her body and continue what she is doing, or she needs to pay the price to have a toned body, so her actions and desires are not in conflict anymore.
Jessica, on the other hand, knew what she wanted, and her beliefs were aligned with her actions. Even though she did not have the right information in the beginning, she researched and put in the effort until she achieved her goal.
Hard to lose weight? Planning your day can really help you get on the right paths
My reading and continuing education are very important to me. It is a habit that have helped me to understand myself, others, and life. By reading, I find new concepts that I apply in my life. These new concepts, theories, truths or whatever you want to call them, often deepen my thinking and improve my life.
I have read that God forgives, humans not always, but time never forgives. Once the time is wasted, it is GONE! According to many experts, planning your day is an efficient way to get the most of your day and, therefore, your time. You’ll get more of your goals and activities done, including your weight loss lost program.
Here is an example of my Monday:
4:50 am- Wake up, shower and dress, cook and eat breakfast, check my calendar, drive to work and pray at the same time.
6 am- Welcome Custom Body Fitness members and help them achieve their goal by training them and making their day a great day!
10:15 am- Eat my snack and exercise.
11:30 am- Go for my meditation walk.
12:30 pm- Drive back home, cook lunch, and take a nap.
1:00 pm- Study, check for Custom Body Fitness members’ needs and continue working.
3:30 pm- Do any errands that need to be done, as an example, pay bills, make phone calls, scheduled assessments.
4:30 pm- Drive back to Custom Body Fitness for afternoon sessions.
5 pm- Welcome Custom Body Fitness members and train them and help them with their fitness and weight loss goals.
9 pm- Drive back home, cook dog’s food and my dinner for me to eat; watch a webinar, seminar or conference.
10: pm- get ready for bed and pray.
If you notice, many habits keep me on track. My health depends on my exercises, meditation, self-education, food intake, job, interaction with my clients, as well as errands that need to be done. As you see, everything is planned so it’s easy to manage my physical, spiritual, intellectual, and professional needs. Of course, sometimes there are emergencies or inconveniences once in a while. However, if you are decent at managing stress, you can get back in track in a few hours or a couple of days. Getting back to your healthy habits makes you feel so good.
Back to the main point of my pep talk today: if your goal is to lose weight and keep it off, it is important that you start planning your days, so you don’t miss your workouts, duties, and regular and healthy meal times too.
Also, experts have shown that when you’ve planned your day and look at your upcoming schedule the night before, your brain unconsciously knows how the day is going to be and you have to do less effort to get everything done.
So there you have it, another tool for you to lose the weight you are tired to carrying. Remember, if you really want to achieve your dream body, you need to act now and change your habits. New behaviors and a positive attitude will get you to the new you. So start applying planning in your life and you will find out how great it works.
I wake up in the morning; the first action I take is go straight to the kitchen and prepare my oatmeal. I let it cook as I meditate and shower. This is how my day starts every morning. From 5am to 10am I am usually training our members at Custom Body Fitness. By 10 am, I am ready for my fruit snack. I exercise, go for a walk, have a meeting and eat my lunch between 12 and 2 pm. After my lunch, I continue working until 4pm when is time for my next snack, fruit or a smoothie. I go back to train our members from 5 to 8 pm. I come home and prepare my dinner. I read, continue working and go to bed between 10 and 11 pm.
This is my usual routine. Many people think that I stay in shape because that is all I do and others think that my body is in shape just because of it. However, weight loss and being in shape is not luck. It is called a lifestyle.
If we take my life as an example, there are various things I do to stay in shape, first I eat a healthy breakfast; second I have a food schedule that I follow; I snack on fruits and prepare my breakfast, lunch and dinner. I never drink sugar added drinks, beer or alcohol or eat candy, or fast food, or skip my breakfast, lunch or dinner. Also, I don’t usually eat out. That helps me stay in shape by cooking the right foods and knowing what is on my plate. Plus, I save money.
Now, there is no day that I skip my exercise, even if I don’t have the energy to do it. I never do a mediocre workout. I go all in. The day my brain cuts me some slack on my exercise, that day I will become weaker mentally and physically, and start gaining some weight.
I don’t have to count my calories because there is no way I can eat extra calories eating the right foods. Also, by increasing my muscle mass I burn more calories than a regular human being who does not. In addition, I burn calories by exercising.
While this is a lifestyle, everything I do fulfills a human need. Eating, exercising, and sleeping do contribute to my physical need; meditating, walking and helping others helps me with my spiritual need; having a community of members who I help and coworkers who have the same goals, helps me with feelings of acceptance; working helps me with my material need; spending time at work learning and researching helps me with my learning need; teaching my coworkers and members all my knowledge aids me in my creating need; knowing that I am making a change by understanding our members and listening to their life’s concern also helps me with my caring need.
By the end I know I have a purpose here in life and I am living it every day. This is what is called a lifestyle. Weight loss is part of my life because I live it every day without questioning if I have do to things because I need to lose weight or get in shape. It is just part of my life.
To get here was not very simple. First I needed to find myself. I needed to start questioning everything and everyone. Everyone has beliefs and they teach what they believe. I don’t take advice from doctors or any other professional who I know it is not capable of helping me. Knowledge is not the only thing that I am looking for. I am looking for the lifestyle the person has when the person is giving an advice. If someone is telling that I should not take risks to do something because I could regret and that person is unhappy with his life, I don’t take the advice. However, if the person tells me to take calculated risks and I see the person is fulfilled, successful and happy, I am taking the advice.
Nevertheless, what I want is what matters. I don’t let anyone persuade me to do anything if it does not fit with my values or morals. Staying true to myself is more important than lying to myself. No one likes to be with some who is not true to himself and breaking my values and moral is not being true to myself. Therefore, I would not be happy with myself and the gain of any action taken only because if gives me something in return. It is not worth losing my integrity.
Before you can create a lifestyle that deliver results for your weight loss and health, first find yourself and make sure you are ready to be true to yourself.
Ryan has been in the hospital three times for two diseases he could have avoided, diabetes and gout, where he gets a quick fix to go back to his routine of working. He is a workaholic just like I am (I don’t blame him). He loves what his does and his business depends of him. He is always looking forward to work. He also has a family that he loves and a baby on his way.
Ryan is overweight and he does not know why he wants to lose weight. The reason why he is seeking professional help is because other people are asking him to do so. He knows exercising and eating healthy will help him to lose weight, but work and other “important” activities get in the way.
He has no motivation to lose weight what so ever. However he has done it twice in 30 years, lost 30 pounds and regained it. When I sit with him and talk about his life, I noticed that problem. He does not have his whys clear. He does not understand yet that weight loss is not what is important. And maybe not even his health. However, what is important to him is his family and his career.
Nevertheless, if Ryan continues in the same path, he will end up in the hospital again with very high possibilities of depending of machines, surgeries or even dying. This means that he won’t be able to take care and enjoy his family. He will need to stop what he loves to do; his job and his might run out of business. As soon as he understood his why to exercise and eat healthy, he got the motivation he needed. Now he is losing weight and balancing his live between work, his family and his health.
Business that have their mission statement clear and people who have their whys clear have been proven that they are the most successful in life.
My whys wake me up everyday very at 4 am. They are clear and give me the motivation to do what it takes to achieve my goals.
Lession1: Have you whys clear to lose weight. Without a why you don’t even know WHY is important to lose weight.
Bethany lost her mom two years ago. Her mom died of heart complications. The mom did not take care of herself. She did not exercise or ate healthy. Bethany fall in depression and suffer a lot. I understand her. I have been there. However, she is not dwelling anymore and she understood something very important and made a promise. She understood if she does not do something for herself, she will end up the same way her mom.
Bethany knew that her mom would like the best for her. So the promised she made was to lose 60 pounds and be healthy. She made it!! She was devoted to her promised. She needed to suffer before she understood the why she needed to lose weight.
Many of us need to suffer to improve our lives. All successful people have been through a crisis before they achieve an important goal in their lives.
I am very good with pain. I had had three knee surgeries and the last one was three ligaments in one surgery. Never took a pain killer pill. We have become good friends. However, depression is one of the most painful situations I ever been. It makes me kneel, cry and ask God for his wisdom. Depression is so painful that made me understand that I was in the wrong path and therefore I decided to change to a better person.
Lession 2, be smart. You don’t have to go into a very painful situation or crisis to change and do something for you now. Change now.
Pedro is one of five siblings, three women and two guys. They are all overweight, including mom and dad. The doctor told them that they are overweight thanks to their genes. All the family belief it and decided to stayed overweight except for Pedro. Pedro was not buying it and he decided to go against his destiny and genes. He changed his eating habits and started to exercise. No one in the family believes that Pedro can make it happen because it is “genetic.” It took him 5 years to get to his goal and now he is in great shape. He is an athlete.
People used to belief that the earth was flat. The school used to teach it. The government agreed. No one was open minded to take the risk and find out. Everyone was doomed to the flat theory. However, one day someone decided to die falling of the earth or discovered new land. I think you know the story.
I used to think I was slave of my manly desires. I used to think my emotions and pleasures control me until I decided to fight them. We can choose our destiny.
Lesson 3, challenge all your beliefs. Stop believing what fools believe and do something for you.
I hear of an experiment where a group of people were asked to walk straight to the end of a large room. They pointed where they end was. As people walked, they found chairs. Many people walked around the right, others around the left, others went over them and others moved the chair. All the participants got to the end.
A second group of people were asked to walk straight in same room. As they were walking, they found the same chairs. They stopped were the chairs were and never got to the end of the room.
People who knows their why, have changed and challenge their beliefs, set clear and defined goals. They get to their goal no matter what chair, obstacle, gets in their way.
When I set my clear goals and develop a plan and I take action. I have achieved many of my goals since I practice goal setting.
Lesson 4, when you have defined goals, you will get to your goal no matter how many chairs or obstacles get in the middle.
When you have figured out these 4 lessons, exercise and eating healthy will be easy and surly you will lose weight and keep it off.
Mary wakes up early, gets the kids ready for school, makes their lunch, and takes them to school. She comes home and gets ready for work. When she notices it is time to go to work; she opens to the garage door, starts her car and goes to work. Mary works until she realizes that she is hungry, since she has not eaten and it is now 12:30 she is very hungry and goes to the closest restaurant, orders for fast food and eats until she is full and a little extra.
Mary finishes working, stops to pick up the kids, goes home, picks up the house, watches her favorite TV show and after an hour she starts to make dinner. As she is making dinner, she starts eating chips, crackers and cheese, and a couple of sweets. Mary finishes dinner and notices that the clock says 6:30pm. By the time she would sit down to eat it would 7pm, but she is not hungry anymore for all the junk she ate.
It has been more than 6 hours since she ate, or at least that is what she wants to think. Mary feels guilty for the snacks she ate earlier and thinks that she has no self-control. However, around 9pm she is hungry again and she snacks on junk food because she thinks that that is better than seating and eating an entire meal that late.
Jessie like many other women is giving to her family. She is usually thinking about her family and trying to make everyone happy. However, she also doesn’t know how to communicate her needs and feelings. When she feels stressed she does not talk to her husband because the husband does not have the skills to listen. She thinks that her kids are too young to understand her. Jessie has two sisters that live close to her house, but they usually come to her for advice when they have problems. Therefore, she feels that she needs to be the strong person to support everyone.
She does not feel comfortable talking to her husband, kids or sisters. Instead of looking for help, she decides to eat and drink and she does this quite often. When she is eating and drinking, she forgets about her needs and feels relaxed, at least for the moment until she goes to sleep and repeats the same routine the next day.
These two stories are more typical than we think. Do you feel like you relate to Mary or Jessie? The problem is not the problem itself. The problem many times is that we don’t recognize that there is a problem that is creating the problem. The diet is not what is wrong or the overeating.
The problem for Mary is her lifestyle and the lack of understanding that her lifestyle will not help her in the future with her weight and overall health. For Jessie, the problem is that she does not communicate and refuses to put her needs before anyone else. If she continues hiding her needs, one day she will notice that her coping mechanism is not helping her anymore.
The solution for Mary is very simple, prioritize her health and open time to eat on a schedule to avoid overeating and stop believing that she is too busy. She will never stop being busy. She has been busy ever since she can remember and she will find out that her partner is not going to change. All she needs to do is open time for her health.
Jessie needs to stop assuming that other people don’t listen to her and she needs to speak up regarding her needs. When she feels that she can’t handle it anymore because she is tired of cleaning the house, maybe she can sit talk to the kids and request that they learn to help organize the house. When she feels lonely she can communicate that to her husband. When she made a mistake and she does not how to handle it, maybe her sister has made a similar mistake before and she can give her a good advice. The solution, she needs to communicate when her gut tells her to do so.
No self control, no diet, no program, no nutritionist, no personal trainer is needed. The solutions are in their hands.
A lot of hours in my day are dedicated to understanding my clients and to continuing to discover ways to deliver results for them. I spend my weekends creating new tools and gathering information to help them change their body and get results.
This is because I see many of my clients struggle with the same issues. Talking about these issues reminds them of something they already know but have forgotten. Lately I have been seeing a pattern of things that many have forgotten about: Everything is a process, and they must revisit their goals.
Not too long ago I was talking to a member on whom we did a before-and-after assessment last year. She saw great results, but now she is getting stuck and has even gained some weight. She said that she is not losing weight and she is thinking of using a fast method where she puts BB-gun pellets in her ears to lose weight. While this is different from pills, pomades, diets, fat removal massages, wraps and others, it’s still a belief.
She forgot about what she had been applying in the past. Weight loss is not an event; it is a process. Weight loss requires time, patience and persistence. If you think about your daily tasks, you know that everything requires a process. Getting ready to work is a process. It may take you 10 minutes to an hour. Washing your car, doing an oil change, cooking, applying math, writing, teaching … everything is a process.
How long you have being carrying the extra weight, how ingrained your bad habits are and what you are doing to change will determine how much time you need to lose weight. If you have been carrying that extra weight for more than ten years, you shouldn’t expect to lose it within ten days. Also, walking won’t deliver better results than running even though it is helping you to lose weight. Taking into consideration that you do have bad habits to change and you are willing to change them will help you to get to your goal faster.
Don’t you worry, you are not alone here. I also work on myself every day finding these bad habits. This is what makes me unique, and it makes me better every day. I find my bad habits and I attack them. It is about improvement. Relapsing to your bad habits it is not the best feeling. Many people give up because of relapses. As a matter of fact, I just relapsed to one of my bad habits, and it hurts a lot because I know better. It is very painful. I make sure it hurts. I am hard with myself, but I do not dwell on it. I bring it up and continue with my goals making sure that I can overcome my bad habits. This is where persistence makes a difference. Relapsing is part of being human, but you don’t have to give up just because it is painful and you think you are not worthy. Rather, you need to understand that you need to go back to your dream and goals. Give yourself time, be patient and persist with the process.
Many of our members signed up for our program because they want to feel self-confidence. While weight loss can help, it is not everything. There are guys who have nice bodies but opt to do steroids because they lack confidence. You can find women who have very nice bodies yet become anorexic because they lack confidence. Losing weight and having a nice body helps, but it only adds to the equation.
What is more important is your promise, the contract you make with yourself and others. Each time you choose to lose weight and set a clear weight goal — such as losing 60 pounds in a year — you have set a contract with yourself, and you have become more committed when you set a contract with another. When you fail to honor your contract, your self-confidence lowers. Each time you do it again, you don’t trust yourself anymore because you know you give up, and it comes to the point that you stop trying because you are lying to yourself and others. This lowers your self-esteem.
Avoid this by revisiting your goals. When you revisit your goals, you remember the reason why you signed a contract with yourself in the first place, why you are waking up early to exercise or to run, why you are preparing your breakfast, why you stopped eating fast foods, why your diet is high in veggies, and why you are making an effort when life is getting difficult, when you have a fight with your significant other, when you lose your job, when your child is sick, when you’re suffering financially, when you are sick, when your shoulder hurts or when you are afraid. Revisiting your goals will wake up those feelings you had in the first place when you were ready to change and will give you the energy to go back and continue doing what you started a couple of months ago.
I used to go out and drink with many of my friends. I used to pay for their drinks and dinner and then drive to the city to go shopping and party. They were there for me when it was about having fun. I changed my life to become a better person than who I used to be; I raised my standards, and all of those people disappeared from my life. No one called me later to see how I was doing.
I am not saying this because I feel left alone. As a matter of fact, I am so happy they disappeared from my life. I could not have achieved what I have achieved if I were still around them. That does not mean they are bad people. We just need different habits for different goals. If I continued drinking, partying, wasting time, and talking about trivial things, I would not have the knowledge to help other people. For me to help others, I needed to change and learn. Not one of those friends were ready for that. I needed to move on.
What do your friends do to help you reach your goals? Are they taking you drinking? Are they asking you to eat the wrong foods? Are they inviting you to watch a marathon TV series? Do they really care about you and your goals? Why then aren’t they asking you to go for a hike instead of stay and watch TV? Why aren’t they asking you to nourish your body with the right foods and not intoxicate your body to reach your goal? Why aren’t they helping you cook or encouraging you to cook and keeping you company in the process to reach your goal? The friends who really care about you care about your goals and you progressing to become a better person.
Get on track by remembering that everything is a process and it requires time, patience and persistence. Revisit your goals to wake up old feelings that drive you to go back and do the right things and find out who is around you helping you become a better person.
Seven years of hard work have paid off for me. Since I decided to change my life, I have being working towards my goals and I have achieved many of them. When I look back, I can conclude that my life has changed because of all the changes I have made, not because of luck.
I think about many of the Custom Body Fitness members who started years ago. Many of them have lost a significant amount of weight and transformed their bodies. Others have lost weight, left Custom Body Fitness only to later return because they lost motivation and gained weight back.
Those who lose weight and continue getting in shape are those who are the most disciplined. No matter what happens in their lives, they continue eating healthy and exercise regularly. Many times they come and tell me their stories and struggles with their family, business or job, health, finances, losses and emotions. It amazes me that they continue taking care of themselves.
I can tell you that in these seven years I have learned a lot from my experiences. I had struggles like many of my clients do, unsuccessful knee surgery, my brother’s car accidents, my dog’s life threaten surgeries, car issues, identity theft, unsuccessful heart breaking relationships and lack of help at CBF. However, just like many of our members, I did not stop taking care of all areas of my life; spiritual, family, health, professional and financial.
What I know is that life happens to everyone and whatever happens is not here to stay. It will pass and the two options we have is to stop and be devastated or continue with our goals and take care of the situation as we move forward. Many of our members know this as well.
It reminds me of the analogy in the bible about the dream of the pharaoh that Joseph interpreted. There are seven fat cows and seven skinny cows. The skinny cows come and eat the fat caws. According to Joseph, there will be 7 years of abundance and 7 of scarcity. Therefore, when we are in abundance, we must take care of our areas and have reserves for the 7 years of scarcity.
Like I said, these past 7 years have been a blessing for me with a couple of inconveniences mentioned above. Nevertheless, 2017 has been the most difficult one. I have been spiritually/emotionally, family, financial and professionally hit. I think right now I am in my best shape ever, but the rest of my areas are suffering significantly even though I continue doing my best.
This does not mean that I am giving up on my dreams; it means that tough times have come and I need to endure to my dream, my hearts desires and continue taking care no matter how difficult it gets. It means that I should have been prepared for this time like Joseph did by reserving.
I once heard that life is a series of problems coming and the only break we have is a crisis. So it goes like this, problems, problems, problems and more problems, crisis; problems, problems, problems and more problems, crisis.
And I also heard that we should not ask for fewer problems, we should ask for more wisdom and skills.
In other words, weight loss or any other goal you have will never happen unless you know how to deal with all these inconveniences as you continue moving forward. They have always existed and will always exist.
Many people want results the so-called easy way. They buy pills or “exercise belts,” follow promising fad diets, get into hormone programs or other outfits that promise the moon with no effort from the person. While many of these ways to lose weight come with negative side effects, they may help you lose weight but in unhealthy ways: You lose muscle mass, carbohydrates, and water, while leaving your body with same fat and actually slowing down your metabolism.
The effective approach to weight loss is not a magic pill or fad diet plan but a change in lifestyle. And guess what? A lifestyle change takes commitment and persistence. Persistence is a virtue that can be developed, just like patience. You may have other virtues, but if you don’t have persistence, you won’t succeed in much, let alone a weight loss program. Thomas Edison was asked once how it feels to fail 1,000 times. And Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 10,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 10,000 steps.” Edison lived persistence. If he had given up at the first, second, third, or fourth attempt, he never would have invented the light bulb. So for you: You’ll get results in your weight loss program only if you are committed, give what it takes and, more important, are persistence.
Develop your persistence virtue by making sure you want it, not others.
Avoid procrastination–Leaving everything for later is a weakness.
Look for real knowledge. Put your common sense to work.
Make definite and organized plans.
Face your mistakes. Blaming others for your mistakes or your situation is a sign of not facing your own shortcomings.
Don’t give in to your body’s desires that may sabotage your weight loss program. Instead, trust and follow your spirit to your goals.
Considering giving up to your weight loss program will probably make you fail and not persist.
Instead of only wanting, act.
THIS IS VERY INPORTANT: avoid looking for shortcuts instead of doing what it takes for you to get the body and health you want. Face the difficulties; they are part of your success.
Your possibilities to success are higher if you are persistence.
Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
I remember being curious in my childhood. I remember asking anything that was not clear in my head. My mom was embarrassed of me because of all my questions, and she would command me to be quiet. But curiosity led me to learn.
Another quality I had was persistence. My friends called me stubborn. Sometimes they would get mad and let me do what I wanted, so I would stop pestering them. I remember the time when I learned how to drive a manual transmission. My friend let me drive his car because I wouldn’t stop asking him to teach me.
Persistence was one of Mother Teresa’s virtues. Nobody supported her in her quest in the beginning. Nobody believed in her, and she was denied many things. But because she refused to give up, she eventually was granted permission to practice as a nun outside of the church, and she was able to help dying people in a country not friendly to Christians. She was called stubborn many times, but it was because of her persistence that she finally achieved so much.
Persistence helped me to have a better appearance. I got interested in a better appearance when I paid attention to my friend’s body as we were working as arborists picking up tree trunks. He was a bodybuilder. His body looked different than everyone else’s. So I asked him what he did to be in shape. Back then, I was naïve. I did not know anything about fitness. He replied that he lifted weights, disregarding my suggestion that our physical job might have been what developed his body.
We agreed to meet that evening in the gym so he could teach me his secrets. As he promised, he was there waiting for me. So we trained. The next day we were supposed to meet again, but this time he did not show up. Maybe he thought that I would be like the many others who get excited for the first month but then quit. I did meet him again at the gym and worked out with him and his partner. After a while, I learned enough to continue. I told him that my goal was to look like him in three months. He laughed. So I decided to do it, but he was right: My body changed, but not enough to compare myself with him. But guess what? I continued the habits — I’m persistent — and I finally got what I wanted.
Persistence is the key to your success, to the body that you want. However, I have noticed two more virtues that are integral to success. One is discipline and the other is the opposite of what Albert Einstein called insanity — doing the same thing over and over expecting the same results. Just make sure these habits lead to your goal.
The Japanese says that discipline is superior to intelligence. Information and knowledge are nothing if one doesn’t have the discipline to practice it. The discipline of eating and exercise is what led me to my results and led many other people to their results.
Albert Einstein said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It holds true for people who are practicing negative habits yet want a healthy appearance and weight. Usually these people complain about not losing fat and want an easy way out, but they are not paying attention to what they are doing over and over again to increase their fat levels. However, if you apply this law in reverse — repetition of good habits — you will continue to get positive results. And you want to get the same results all the time. Here is an example: If you started lifting weights and eating your breakfast and lost 5 pounds of fat toning your arms, legs and stomach, what should you continue doing to lose 5 more pounds of fat and continue toning your body? Hopefully if you have a desire to get your dream body, you continue practicing the habits that will lead you there, namely lifting weights and eating your breakfast. It is true that practicing the same habits over and over again will lead to the same results.
Persistence, discipline and repetition are three simple habits that will help you get to your goals. There is no way around it. Persistence means that no matter what obstacles are in front of you, you will persevere. Discipline is the price that you need to pay every day by repeating good habits. And repetition is the capital that you are investing every day to make your capital grow, in this case your health.
I have practiced these three habits, and they have helped me get what I want. I teach CBF’s members how to practice them, and they get results. Put them into practice, and sooner or later you will get the healthy body weight you always wanted.